In this world
there are a lot of perspectives that people have on fathers. A lot of the world
and society grow up without a father in their life or do not have a father
figure for their children. As I have been able to research more on the
importance of fathers and that it is important that children and families have
a father or father figure in their lives. There are a lot of emotional concepts
that can effect children because the absence of fathers. I would like to
address 5 concepts of why fathers are so important. The power of play,
Encouraging risk, protective instincts, dad’s discipline, the fight of
delinquency and teenage pregnancy are main important reasons I would like to
address in this paper.
The power of play. Play is such an important part of children’s
lives. If you take away play in a child’s life they are stuck with boring
imagination and a sense of depression. Play is how children find who they are
and what they enjoy doing. Father’s interaction they have with their children
play a vital role in how the children view themselves. Fathers create a sense
of arousal, excitement and unpredictability. Fathers have more of an arousal of
excitement when it comes to play, they usually spend more time engaged in more
active play then the children’s mothers. Studies have shown that fathers know
how to teach their children their emotions as well when it comes to play. In
the article by John Snarey he mentions that children can learn that biting,
kicking, and other physical violence is not ok when they rough house with their
fathers. This is probably due because fathers know what boundaries to set and
teach their children not to cross those boundaries.
Encouraging Risk. In this article it is amazing to see that
encouraging risk is really a healthy factor for children. Fathers are a key
role in helping their children tackle challenges and to become more
independent. Mothers of course focus a lot on the safety of children which is
important to but mothers sometimes can hinder their children from taking risk.
Fathers allow their children take those risks so they can learn from mistakes
and experiences. In this article they have a good example of swimming lessons
with children. Mothers tend to stand in front of children to block them from
harm when fathers usually stand behind their children to teach the children
they can face their own problems. (paquette)This is so interesting to me that
this is important to have in a child’s life. Someone who will not baby them but
let them make their own decisions
Protective Instincts. There is always something about a father that
makes him the protective man of the house. When children have a father in their
life they feel more secure and protected from the dangers of the world. They
play a very protective role in their families’ lives. Fathers who truly engage
in their children’s lives they monitor the safety and the wellbeing of their
children. They really help children feel secure and safe.
Dad’s Discipline. Its always important as parents to know what is
the discipline plan. I have always seen my father in my life as a very loving
man who taught me correct principles. He was always the one to discipline me
because he was firmer and was able to confront us as his children to be more
obedient. Fathers really do have a great effect on children when they know how
to correctively discipline their children. Children notice that their fathers
do have authority and are more willing to obey their fathers more than their
mothers.
Delinquency. Over generations and generations we have research that
shows that fathers make great contributions in their children’s lives. Fathers
can make a big difference in children’s behavior and how they feel about
themselves. A father’s warmth, and strong communication skills can foster
children’s into healthy ways. Boys who have great relationships with their
fathers tend be better behave and get into less trouble with peers, at school
and even at home. Studies have shown that boys who are just raised by single
mothers who have low quality relationships shows that they were involved in
more teen pregnancy, drugs, and delinquency. There is something about having a
father that helps us to have a great example to look up to. Fathers are just as
important as mothers.
My Father. My father has always been a great example to me. I cant
imagine my life without him. The relationship I have with him is a special one
that I will never take for granted. When talking about a father I think of my
father who has always been involved in my life. A father who takes the time to
teach important principles and share examples of his life shows that he cares
and loves me. I have always had a supportive father. I believe that because my
father has always been supportive in my play and activities, I know that he
truly cares for me. The nice thing about having a father in my life is that he
has always encouraged me to make my own decisions and he has always helped me
be courageous. I am grateful that he pushes me to be better.
Fathers
are supposed to be there to protect you and create a sense of protection from
the world. I have noticed this in my father as he takes the time to really get
to know our struggles. He tries to council us and to take the time to listen to
us. My dad is an example of a provider and lover. He loves his children. If I
didn’t have my father in my life it would have been hard to get through some of
the toughest challenges. If my father wasn’t in my life I could picture myself
not having direction or knowing my purpose. A father is a great example to his
children of hard work. Everyone needs a dad, specially a dad like mine.
Future Family. I am on the road to being married here soon. I have
had to time to reflect on what will happen in my future and in my future
family. I want to make sure that I provide the best for my family and for my
kids. But I think an important role is the father. I want to make sure that my
husband is a main participant in their lives. I think one way to do that as a
wife is to include him in everything that you have noticed or have been feeling
and even plans made about your children. I think mothers can get caught up on
doing everything for their children and not involve the father because they are
at work or are busy. A father needs to be involved in the children’s plans and activities.
He needs to know what is happening in their lives. I want my husband to be a
father that will always find time for his children. I know how important it is
to have their daddy home from work on time and ready to eat dinner with the
family. This is a goal of action that I would love to see happen in my future
time. I also want to have my children have one on one dates with their father.
Their father will be able to get to know them on a personal level and create a
bonding, trusting relationship by having one on one time with no one else
around. These are some of the greatest moments I have with my father. I want my
children to have that same experience. This will open doors and communication
and ways to help my husband know how they are feeling.
Overall fathers
need to be in your children’s lives. We need to involve them. Fathers are
crucial in their development as a human being. I like to think of the greatest
father we all have and that is our Heavenly Father. He our God and creator and
he loves perfectly. We can’t imagine our lives without him. May we strive to
keep fathers in our families and we need to appreciate their importance and
hard work. We can see a decrease in issues and problems when fathers create one
on one bonding time with their children.
http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/06/the-distinct-positive-impact-of-a-good-dad/276874/
